TAKE OUTS
- Good relationships are the key to the good lifes
- Everyone sees the world differently
- You probably have just as many blind spots as everyone else
- Memories are not facts
- Memory is the ultimate self-serving historian
- The more time you spend being stressed, angry and anxious (etc) the more emotionally reactive you become
- Deposits to the love bank make love grow
- Masters understand that people are precious
- The only kind response to good news is to be enthusiastic
- Your response to bids for attention will create or destroy trust
- Happy people make happy relationships
- Complaining makes you less attractive
- Happiness is destroyed by complaint
- Fighting is normal, being nasty is toxic
- Gratitude is the world’s best love-maker
- if you look for shit you’ll very likely find it
- Just one word can change the whole perspective
- Taking yourself too seriously makes you kind of a dick
LIFE ENHANCEMENTS YOU MAY WANT TO PRACTICE
-
Make having good relationships your #1 priority
-
Make allowances – they’re different from you
-
Start paying attention to your own inconsistencies
-
Hold loosely to your version of the truth
-
Blame less, take responsibility more
-
Meditate, Surf, Create, Dance, Hug, Kiss, Smile, Play Music, Breathe Deeply, Travel and Do something nice for someone.
-
Find out the 5 things for all your loved ones
-
Count to ten (or even twenty)
-
Celebrate the good news of others
-
Learn and practice the skills of happiness
-
Deliberately smile more often
-
The ‘one a day whinge’
-
Answer gently, even during arguments
-
Practice gratitude daily
-
Consciously look for the good in others
-
Laugh at yourself, especially your shortcomings
JUST A FEW RELATIONSHIP TIPS
-
Make deposits daily
-
Observe the little things others do for you – thank them
-
Stay calm or take a break during disagreements
-
Learn to listen well
-
Be patient, they are foreigners and you’ll never truly understand them
-
Try to step into the shoes of the other person
-
Look for the good in all situations
-
Reduce complaining and criticism
-
Refuse to sulk
-
Be kind. Be kind. Be Kind.
-
Pick your battles
-
Choose your words with great care
-
Work towards building quality friendships
-
Find out what makes the other person feel special – do that!
-
Communicate how much you treasure your people