Relationships Take Outs, Tips & Enhancements

TAKE OUTS

  • Good relationships are the key to the good lifes
  • Everyone sees the world differently
  • You probably have just as many blind spots as everyone else
  • Memories are not facts
  • Memory is the ultimate self-serving historian
  • The more time you spend being stressed, angry and anxious (etc) the more emotionally reactive you become
  • Deposits to the love bank make love grow
  • Masters understand that people are precious
  • The only kind response to good news is to be enthusiastic
  • Your response to bids for attention will create or destroy trust
  • Happy people make happy relationships
  • Complaining makes you less attractive
  • Happiness is destroyed by complaint
  • Fighting is normal, being nasty is toxic
  • Gratitude is the world’s best love-maker
  • if you look for shit you’ll very likely find it
  • Just one word can change the whole perspective
  • Taking yourself too seriously makes you kind of a dick

LIFE ENHANCEMENTS YOU MAY WANT TO PRACTICE

  • Make having good relationships your #1 priority

  • Make allowances – they’re different from you

  • Start paying attention to your own inconsistencies

  • Hold loosely to your version of the truth

  • Blame less, take responsibility more

  • Meditate, Surf, Create, Dance, Hug, Kiss, Smile, Play Music, Breathe Deeply, Travel and Do something nice for someone.

  • Find out the 5 things for all your loved ones

  • Count to ten (or even twenty)

  • Celebrate the good news of others

  • Learn and practice the skills of happiness

  • Deliberately smile more often

  • The ‘one a day whinge’

  • Answer gently, even during arguments

  • Practice gratitude daily

  • Consciously look for the good in others

  • Laugh at yourself, especially your shortcomings

 

JUST A FEW RELATIONSHIP TIPS

  • Make deposits daily

  • Observe the little things others do for you – thank them

  • Stay calm or take a break during disagreements

  • Learn to listen well

  • Be patient, they are foreigners and you’ll never truly understand them

  • Try to step into the shoes of the other person

  • Look for the good in all situations

  • Reduce complaining and criticism

  • Refuse to sulk

  • Be kind. Be kind. Be Kind.

  • Pick your battles

  • Choose your words with great care

  • Work towards building quality friendships

  • Find out what makes the other person feel special – do that!

  • Communicate how much you treasure your people