What A Feeling! Research & Reference

 

This is a work in progress – partly because some completely insane person (that would be me) sorted out her books and managed to accidentally lose (did they go to the op-shop by mistake?) ALL her reference books. Yes I know! Even the one signed by Brene Brown that said “Toni, let’s change the world together!”

Check back in later if the info you need isn’t here.  In the meantime I’m buying new books and trying to fathom who was in charge of my mind and body when this disaster happened.

 

 

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Chapter 1: CHASING THE GOOD LIFE

 

The ‘Grant Study’: More information about Harvard’s ‘Grant Study,’ also known as ‘The Study of Adult Development, can be found on this website. You’ll also be able to watch an interview with as well as a TED talk by the current study director Dr Robert Waldinger (which includes the quote from him I mentioned).

 

Books mentioned:

‘Triumphs of Experience’ by George Vaillant

‘The Happiness Advantage’ by Prof Shawn Achor

Chapter 3: THE QUESTIONS

p 33: ‘To quote Paul Waldman of e Week..’  Link to Public Integrity Iraq War Card

p 34: Teens and Parents: Information found in ‘Mistakes Were Made’ on page 78

 

Book quoted from:

‘Mistakes Were Made, But Not By Me’ Tavris and Aronson

Chapter 4: BLINDSPOTS

 

p 39 – 41: How we see – please refer to Chapter 10 of Dr Medina’s book ‘Brain Rules’

p 41: Shawn Achor’s book ‘Before Happiness’

p 41: Anil Seth TED talk – How Your Brain Hallucinates Your Conscious Reality

p 46: ‘You Are Not So Smart’ podcast episode 101 ‘Naïve Realism’

p 47 – 49 : ‘False Consensus Effect’ research by Prof Lee Ross, David Green and Pamela House published Journal of Social Psychology, 1977.

A clever little Prezi presentation by Pablo Villatoro explains the Sandwich Board experiment in pictures.

p 51: Heavens Gate: This link to chapter six, The Need to Justify Our Actions, of the Psyc241 Textbook offers further reading on Heaven’s Gate and other interesting experiments regarding self-justification.

This 1997 article by People Weekly gives an overview of each of the Heaven’s Gate members who died and shows they were ordinary, smart people.

Books mentioned:

‘Brain Rules’ by John Medina

‘The Happiness Advantage’ Shawn Achor

‘Before Happiness’ by Shawn Achor

Chapter 5: THE ASSASSIN OF LOVE

 

This chapter quotes extensively from ‘Mistakes Were Made (but not by me)’ by Carol Tavris and Elliot Aaronson.

p 62:  ‘Mistakes Were Made (but not by me)’ on page 7

p 63: Conversations With Richard Fidler interview with Graeme Long can be found here.

p 64: Edward James and Rika Kohler study (1259)‘The Effects of Plausibility on the Learning of Controversial Statements’ Journal of Abnormal and Social Psychology, 57, pp 315-320

 

Books mentioned

‘Mistakes Were Made (but not by me)’ by Carol Tavris & Elliot Aronson

 

Other quotes mentioned

Pema Chodron – Pema Chodron Foundation

Chapter 6: THE SELF SERVING HISTORIAN

 

p 69:  Quote from Bruce McKewan ‘The End of Stress As We Know It’

p 72:  Karim Nadir’s TEDx talk on memory is here

p 76:  ‘Mistakes Were Made (but not by me)’ by Carol Tavris & Elliot Aronson page 70/71

p 77: ‘Mistakes Were Made (but not by me)’ by Carol Tavris & Elliot Aronson  page 6

p 80/81: ‘Mistakes Were Made (but not by me)’ by Carol Tavris & Elliot Aronson page 70/76/78

Books mentioned

‘Mistakes Were Made (but not by me)’ by Carol Tavris & Elliot Aronson

‘The End of Stress As We Know It’ by Bruce McKewan

‘Brain Rules’ Dr John Medina

Chapter 7: THE HAPPINESS CONNECTION

 

p 90:  ‘Mistakes Were Made (but not by me)’ by Carol Tavris & Elliot Aronson page 255

Books mentioned

‘Mistakes Were Made (but not by me)’ by Carol Tavris & Elliot Aronson

Chapter 10: THE BANK

Most of this chapter is influenced by the book below.

 

Books mentioned

‘His Needs, Her Needs – How to Affair proof your marriage’ W.F. Harley

 

Quote mentioned

Martha Beck.

Chapter 11: MAGICIANS & MUGGLES

Probably the easiest option is to include some of Dr John Gottman’s videos.

Making Relationships Work (part 1) – Dr Gottman

Making Relationships Work (part 2) – Dr Gottman

Making Relationships Work (part 3) – Dr Gottman

Making Relationships Work (part 4) – Dr Gottman

 

Books mentioned

‘7 Principles for Making Marriage Work’ – Dr John Gottman (Four Horsemen stuff in here)

‘What Makes Love Last?’ Dr John Gottman (trust and betrayal are a theme here)

 

 

Quote mentioned

Martha Beck.

Chapter 12: ATTENTION PLEASE

p 161  Shelly Gable study on Active Constructive – ‘Will You Be There When Things Go Right?’

p 169  Gottman’s work on Turning Away and Turning Toward

 

Quote mentioned

p 172  Quotes from  ‘Just Teasing – A Conceptual Analysis and Empirical Review’ – 2001 Psychological Bulletin

Chapter 13: THE POWER OF WORDS

You’ll probably enjoy my TEDx talk on the same subject The Power of Words

Books mentioned

‘Broadcasting Happiness’ – Michelle Gielan

‘Mountains Beyond Mountains’ – Tracey Kidder

‘Rising Strong’ – Brene Brown

Quote mentioned

Michelle Gielan from ‘Broadcasting Happiness’

Frank Outlaw – Founder of Bi-Lo

Brene Brown – ‘Rising Strong’

Chapter 14: THE BRUTE MAGNET

Books mentioned

”The Squeaky Wheel’ – Guy Winch

 

Quote mentioned

Guy Winch from ‘The Squeaky Wheel’

Chapter 16: WHAT A FEELING!

Quote mentioned

Graeme Long from ‘Conversations with Richard Fidler’

TD Jakes

Chapter 17: THE LOVE POTION

I’m not quoting anyone much in this chapter – here is a link through to the courses I’ve mentioned:

The Great Full Life Class

The Gratitude Adventure